Too often, the trauma of family breakup is intensified for a child when one parent uses the system itself to remove the other parent from the child’s life. False allegations of domestic violence or child abuse are the usual weapons of choice, with the accusing parent being either indifferent, or oblivious to the legacy of emptiness that will become a part of the child's heart for the rest of his or her life.
Although both fathers and mothers can be the victims of these immoral divorce and custody tactics, due to the gender-biased family law system in the US, and gender-discriminatory laws such as VAWA (Violence Against Women Act), men are often the main easy target. Many mothers choose this course as an effortless way to remove fathers from children's lives, and gain complete control over decisions concerning the children. Yet, the truly important issue of what the child needs is lost by not recognizing that a relationship with a dad is not only an indispensable part of a child's formative years, but a cornerstone in his or her entire life.
This tactical maneuver of using false allegations to separate parents from their children is nothing less than violence itself. And, the term I have personally coined to define this form of violence against innocent parents and children: Domestic-Virulence - the violence committed against one parent by another, with the family law system itself as the bludgeon, through the use of false allegations of domestic-violence or child abuse. "Virulence" is defined as "extreme bitterness or malignity of disposition." I believe there is no better term to describe what drives one parent to do this to the other.
Research shows us that, the child who has had one parent decide to remove the other parent from the child‘s life, ultimately damages the child in many ways. And, in most cases, when the child grows and is able to realize what the accusing parent has done, that parent will often bear the brunt of the child’s anger and resentment for having been deprived of the other parent’s contact. And, all this simply because children are allowed, by the family law system, to become hostages in one parent's vendetta.
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I have written a children's book, with my little girl as the inspiration, to try and raise funds for the legal battle (legal railroad) I am going through to see my daughter. If anyone out there has experience or influence in publishing, please contact me j5alvr@aol.com . I would be willing to share some of the profits in exchange for assistance in getting the book published. Thank you.
